Mark 10:17-22 NLT
[17] “As Jesus was starting out on his way to Jerusalem, a man came running up to him, knelt down, and asked, “Good Teacher, what must I do to inherit eternal life?” [18] “Why do you call me good?” Jesus asked. “Only God is truly good. [19] But to answer your question, you know the commandments: ‘You must not murder. You must not commit adultery. You must not steal. You must not testify falsely. You must not cheat anyone. Honor your father and mother.’” [20] “Teacher,” the man replied, “I’ve obeyed all these commandments since I was young.” [21] Looking at the man, Jesus felt genuine LOVE for him. “There is still one thing you haven’t done,” he told him. “Go and sell all your possessions and give the money to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven. Then come, follow me.” [22] At this the man’s face fell, and he went away sad, for he had many possessions.”

Strong’s g25

• Lexical: ἀγαπάω
• Transliteration: agapaó…
• Definition: to love, wish well to, take pleasure in, long for; denotes the love of reason, esteem.
• Origin: Perhaps from agan (much); to love (in a social or moral sense).

Only Mark’s version of Jesus’ encounter with this wealthy young enquirer incudes a detail which gives us the clue to His way with people. How could He let this man go without trying to persuade him to take His advice?

Unlike Satan’s way, Jesus’ modus operandi was to confront people with truth and give them the freedom to choose. Why? If He knew that only through Him can anyone experience eternal life, why did He not try to win him by pressing His point?

LOVE! Did you catch Mark’s comment?

Mark 10:21 NIV
[21] “Jesus looked at him and LOVED him. “One thing you lack,” he said. “Go, sell everything you have and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven. Then come, follow me.”

Jesus loved him enough to tell him the truth and…

… give him the choice.

You see, Jesus does not want followers who are bullied into a relationship with Him by threats or coercion. He wants people to love Him more than their money or any other person or possession freely, by choice.

Luke 14:26 NLT
[26] “If you want to be my disciple, you must, by comparison, hate everyone else—your father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters—yes, even your own life. Otherwise, you cannot be my disciple.”

John 21:15 NLT
[15]”After breakfast Jesus asked Simon Peter, “Simon son of John, do you love me more than these?…”

If Jesus, the Son of God, would not use coercion to make people do what He wanted, neither does God, the Father, nor God, the Holy Spirit, drive people into doing His will. Jesus goes before us and calls us to follow Him. He honours us enough to let us be who He created us to be.

So also, He requires us to treat one another as He treats us. We set ourselves and others free when we take full responsibility for ourselves and allow others to do the same.