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Each One For Himself

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EACH ONE FOR HIMSELF

“You, then, why do you judge your brother or sister? Or why do you treat them with contempt? For we will all stand before God’s judgment seat.

“As it is written:

‘As surely as I live,’ says the Lord, ‘every knee will bow before me: every tongue will acknowledge God.’

“So then, each of us will give an account of ourselves to God.” Romans 14:10-12.

Who can answer that question? It’s like asking a little child who has just been caught red-handed with his hand in the cookie jar, “Why did you do it?” Of course he doesn’t know why. He wanted the cookie in spite of a warning! Like the silly answer my 44-year-old son sometimes gives me, “Because I can!”

The real reason why we judge a brother or sister, or treat them with contempt is that we can’t keep our hands “out of the cookie jar”. We don’t have the courage to own up to our own guilt, so we take it out on someone else. Underneath that is another problem. We are insecure. We are not fully convinced of who we are so we need to control someone else.

It all started in the Garden of Eden. Adam was caught red-handed. God instructed him not to eat the fruit of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil or there would be consequences but, just like a little child, he didn’t believe his Father. He had to try it out for himself. When it all went wrong, just like a child, he blamed his wife and, to make matters worse, he blamed God for giving her to him! And she blamed the serpent and, unfortunately for the serpent, he had no-one else to blame!

We have an inbuilt capacity to dodge responsibility by pinning it on someone else. We might even acknowledge guilt but to be honest enough to admit, “I did it and I take full responsibility for my action,” is another story. But how does that fit in with judging someone else or treating him with contempt because he doesn’t believe or behave the way I do?

There is perhaps more than one reason why we do it. Pride sets us up above others and prompts us to think that we can set the standard for them.  We do this when we are so sure that we are right that we try to force others to believe as we do. Religion does this to the extreme, even killing people when force does not work. The Pharisees killed Jesus because they were convinced that they were right.

Underneath pride lies a more sinister reason for inflexibility – a sinful lifestyle that does not want to be exposed. The Pharisees hated Jesus because He read them like a book. In response, they both judged Him and treated Him with contempt – calling Him a glutton and a drunkard and even Beelzebub, and having Him executed as a blasphemer.

But why do believers sometimes resort to treating a brother or sister in that way? We may not be guilty of blatant sin, and yet we can’t keep our hands off our fellow-believers. I believe that it comes from insecurity – we need others in our camp to bolster us up because we are afraid to stand alone on our convictions. We need approval and, when we don’t get it, we turn on them.

We need to take our cue from Jesus. He was the Son of God and He knew it. At His baptism He had received His Father’s approval and He lived in that security through every experience of His earthly life. He had no need to prove Himself by gathering supporters around Him. He lived under His Father’s approval and left it to them to make up their own minds about Him by examining the evidence.

“But,” you may say, “God has never audibly told me that I am His son.” True, but it is written very clearly in His Word.

“See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are.” 1 John 3:1.

If you are not convinced, what about this one? “Yet to all who did receive Him, to those who believed in His name, He gave the right to become children of God.” John 1:12.

Only when we are secure in the awareness of our Father’s approval can we allow others to follow their convictions without interference. God does not hold us responsible for what others believe and do, but we will give an account before Him for ourselves. Each of us will be judged according to the truth we have received.

Acknowledgement

Scripture taken from THE HOLY BIBLE, NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION®, NIV® Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.® Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide.

Guard Your Own Heart

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GUARD YOUR OWN HEART

“Accept one another whose faith is weak without quarrelling over disputable matters. One person’s faith allows him to eat anything but another, whose faith is weak, eats only vegetables. The one who eats everything must not treat with contempt the one who does not, and the one who does not eat everything must not judge the one who does, for God has accepted him. Who are you to judge another man’s servant? To their own master servants stand or fall. And they will stand, for the Lord is able to make them stand.” Romans 14:1-4.

Is this really a problem today? Who cares what another believer eats or wears or even drives or lives in?

In the Apostle Paul’s day, it was an issue for both Jew and Gentile believers – Jews because their conscience was shaped by the dietary laws of their religion and culture, and Gentiles because they bought their meat from the market after it had been offered to idols.

There were two matters of conscience that had to be dealt with: What effect did the food they ate have on their spirits, and did meat offered to idols in a pagan temple have any power to influence them? But, for Paul there was another and more subtle problem – that of judging.

From God’s perspective, judging was more serious than what a person ate. Remember what Jesus said about food? Since it goes into the stomach and passes out of the body, it does not have any power over a person’s heart. It is from the heart, not from what one eats, that wickedness in all its forms originates, and what one eats cannot change the heart, for good or evil. On the other hand, judging another person is a subtle form of idolatry because the one who judges sets himself above the other person.

What about eating meat that had been offered to idols? Does that meat not have the power to influence the eater for evil? Was there not some sort of demonic transfer that took place when the meat was offered to the idol? It all depends on what a person believes.

Never forget that the devil is a liar and that the only language he speaks is the language of lies. His most powerful weapon is deception. He holds people captive to fear only if they believe that he still has power over them. Jesus exposed and utterly defeated him at the cross but he tries to hold people captive by suggesting that he has power over them.

It is up to every believer to decide who his master is? How tragic that many Christians still fear the devil although they say that they trust in Jesus. In the everyday, practical issues of life, we have to ask the question, “Did the cross work?” According to Jesus, when He cried out, “It is finished!” on the cross, He completed everything necessary to reverse what Adam did in the Garden of Eden. He made a public spectacle of the devil, unmasked and defeated him and took away his power to deceive and destroy.

“When you were dead in your sins and in the uncircumcision of your flesh, God made you alive with Christ. He forgave all our sins, having cancelled the charge of our legal indebtedness, which stood against us and condemned us; He has taken it away, nailing it to the cross. And having disarmed the powers and authorities, He made a public spectacle of them, triumphing over them by the cross.” Colossians 2:13-15.

What kind of food we eat and where we got it from should never be an issue because it has no power to influence our hearts except the power we give it when we act out of fear and not faith. However, when we judge someone who has no problem with what he eats because our faith is weak, we usurp the role of master and set ourselves up as the standard of judgment.

“Let it go,” said Paul. “He has a Master who will take care of him. It’s not your problem.” When we try to control someone else, we subtly expose our own insecurity. When we judge another, we expose our own guilt. Our mouths are the mirror of our hearts. By focussing on someone else’s supposed weakness or guilt, we deflect attention from ourselves in case we are exposed.

What is the solution? Rest in Jesus and take care of your own conscience. Trust God. You are not responsible for your brother’s conscience.

Acknowledgement

Scripture taken from THE HOLY BIBLE, NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION®, NIV® Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.® Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide.